Ask Sally Acorn OOC: A response to
Ask Sally Acorn OOC: A response to EscherGirls
I just wanted to toss in my two cents on the post you made about feeling like a hypocrite for preaching that there’s nothing wrong with being fat but you do feel at your core that that’s what your eating disorder is about.
I am (and always have been) a fat girl, and I don’t find you to be a hypocrite at all, for one very important reason. It’s entirely plausible that you can feel that fat is okay and yet still not be pleased with your body. The core of whether or not you’re a hypocrite would be how you treat the bigger girls around you that you mentioned. I don’t see any reason why you wouldn’t be able to look at the other girls and honestly, truly feel that they are beautiful women and look fine and healthy, and yet still not be pleased with your own body. What’s good for the goose isn’t always good for the gander; we all have individual expectations for ourselves that we don’t hold for others.
While I don’t have an eating disorder, I do look at women of all size and appreciate their beauty, whether they’re bigger, smaller, or the same size as me, and yet I can still look in the mirror and remind myself that I need to cut back on the junk food because my ass is sagging or my hips are getting too wide. It’s not impossible to respect someone else’s body and yet have different ideals for your own. I do admit that, growing up as a fat kid, I used to have those same reactions of, “If you’re so fat, what does that make me??” when my skinny friends would complain about their bodies. However, within the last few years, I’ve managed to undergo a sort of paradigm shift in which I can separate someone’s criticism for themself from being a criticism at me by proxy.
Your disorder is your own issue, and no one else’s. I don’t see you as any less of a person, as one inch of a hypocrite, for pushing the idea that all sizes can be sexy and yet being dissatisfied with your own body. So long as you respect the other bodies around you, which it’s clear that you do, how you manage yours is your own business. I hope the girls in your life that you mentioned can come to see that, and be able to support you through your ordeal without putting their own psyches in the middle of it. Good luck, and take care!
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(Oh, and I love your blog!)
Thank you :)